Many trans women have dated gay men in the past. A big part of dating as a trans woman is realizing this specific group is no longer in your dating pool. Bisexual men are a possibility, but not men who are gay, simply because they won’t be attracted to a woman.
Being attracted to a trans woman does not mean a man is gay. Sometimes, this is something that needs to be explained to the man himself. A lot of men find trans women arousing, which raises an important point – if you’re looking for a serious relationship as a trans woman, you’ll need to learn how to weed out people just looking for a thrill. When you realize you’re with someone who has decided date a transgender person just out of sexual curiosity, it’s time to move on – unless you have reason to believe they might come to love who you are as a person.
Expressing admiration from the safety net behind the computer screen is one thing. How can you tell someone is into you? Well, one obvious way would be if he’s willing to be seen with you in public. Many men are embarrassed about being attracted to transgender women. They are worried about how their family and friends will react to their dating someone that is transgender, what they’ll say, what this means for their sexuality. They may find the idea of a sexual encounter with a transgender woman difficult to comprehend. These concerns might make him the wrong person for you, or they might not. It depends entirely on you.
Are you more interested in someone who will act and move forward?
If so, there’s no relationship potential in the above situation.
Not only trans women but women, in general, must respect and value themselves and their time. The quest for nothing more than a sexual encounter is sadly something women who are dating have to deal with and make efforts to avoid unless that’s something they are looking for as well. A man who doesn’t mind dating transgender women isn’t a keeper on the basis of that alone.
Why do they want to pursue a relationship with a transgender woman to begin with?
In the past, men who were attracted to transgender women were either mocked or seen as ill-intentioned or harmful. Sometimes they actually were. There are men who seek to date a transgender woman for reasons they themselves aren’t aware of. Usually, it involves sex though. Unless you don’t mind fulfilling someone’s kink, you should not feel the need to entertain their objectification or sexual desires.
In many parts of the world, transgender people are still perceived as a social (or biological!) experiment. This is regrettable as we are all human beings who deserve respect. Transgender persons deserve to be with people who accept them and like more than just that one aspect of them.
Finally, you might meet an open-minded, considerate, and intelligent person, with whom things don’t work out. If this happens, this will be due to personality differences, no chemistry, or something else; not the fact that you’re transsexual.
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