With people getting more open about sex, a lot of people are into experimenting and trying something new. The most popular dream experiment of modern couples is trying a threesome.
While it may be the most popular dream, the vast majority of people prefer experimenting with threesome sex with people whom they are not in a relationship. Is there any logical reason behind it or it’s just a fear of being more experimental with your partner? Let’s figure it out with the help of vava girls.
The suggestion to have a threesome is always out of the blue for any woman, unless she is the initiator, which is unlikely. A rare woman will want to see two men in her bedroom if she already has her loved one. She simply doesn’t need it, because she totally devotes herself to one man and expects the same from him. Men, in their turn, distinguish between love and sex, so another participant of sexual intercourse is not odd for them.
Why does he want a threesome?
If your partner asks you what you think of having a threesome, don’t start a scandal immediately blaming him for being such a pervert. Of course, your head is full of questions and you may think that you should leave him after this. But keep your head. Perhaps, he had an erotic dream, and he just decided to share with you what he saw in that dream and pull your leg.
You don’t have to agree to fulfill his fantasy. You should take his suggestion as a hint that something should be changed about your intimate life. Perhaps your sex became boring and it needs to be diversified. Try to add some erotic dance, hand-cuffs, try new positions, oral sex, whatever. Learn each other’s preferences.
If you want to have a threesome too, it’s important to observe certain rules. Otherwise, this can turn into a frustrating experience and negatively affect your relationship.
The Stranger on the Train Effect
The stranger-on-the-train effect applies to our tendency to be more open with strangers, rather than with those close to us. The same effect may apply to our sex life. We often tend to distance love from sex. Yes, sex is important in a relationship, but your feelings towards each other are not sex-based. You have your conversation; you have your tender caresses, and you just feel good sleeping next to your partner. When it comes to sex, you often feel that getting more experimental with your partner, you may ruin your stable relationship. You may get the feeling that getting more open about your sexual desires with your partner, would: a) kill your sex dreams, and b) your ruttish dreams can kill the tender part of your relationship. Thus, you feel more okay with having a threesome with people whom you would see for the first and the last time in your life.
Fear of Partner’s Change of an Attitude
Speaking about killing the tender side of your relationship. It comes out of a fear that your partner would change his/her attitude to you. We often talk about how we need to be absolutely open with your partner. At the same time, you get the fear that talking about your secret desires may make your partner change the way he or she thinks of you. First of all, you are afraid that suggesting a threesome would spark a series of questions like “I’m not good enough for you?” or “You consider our sexual life to be boring?” And you are afraid most that your partner may just straightforwardly call you a pervert. We end up being afraid of suggesting to try something new in bed.
Jealousy
Your partner may get jealous while having a threesome, but we are afraid that you may be the one who suggested a threesome and then got jealous. While participating in a threesome, you may start wondering why your partner never was that passionate about you. And you may end up feeling like a complete idiot, who wanted to spice up their bed routine but ended up regretting the consequences and the whole idea in general.
How to behave after a threesome?
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Troilism, a scientific term for a threesome, can have a bitter or sweet aftertaste. If both partners liked it, then good for them. The important thing here is not to get addicted to this kind of activity and sensations it provides. Sometimes it happens that a man and a woman don’t want to have sex without “a third wheel”. Even three of them may become not enough, so they would want to try group sex. This is the wrong strategy. Instead of working on their sexuality and getting educated in sex, people decide that quantity will make up for quality.
Very often a threesome is a huge stress for a woman even if she was ready for it. She may feel uncomfortable but she will hide it from her man who likes it just because she wants to keep this relationship. She should be very careful, since such suppression of her real feelings may lead to depression. What can be advised here is to be open with your partner, tell him what you like and what you don’t.
On the one hand, you may find an idea of a threesome to be suggestive; on the other hand, you are afraid of your partner’s reaction. In the cases of jealousy and fear, your relationship may suffer from what seems to be quite an innocent experiment at first glance. Is there any solution? There is. You need to be open about sex with your partner and you need to be sure about your own desires. If you are not sure whether you want to try threesome sex or not, it is better to avoid it. But if you agreed, don’t forget that it’s just sex, don’t mix it with a relationship. Otherwise, the future of your relationship will be under a big threat.
